Ok, the first one is a little off-format, but I thought it'd be the best one to start off with, if for no other reason than this topic is generally thought to be a rarity. However, in my experience, it's more common than you think!
Statement: My husband doesn't appear to be interested in sex anymore.
My standard reply begins with questions:
How long has this been happening? Are there health concerns?
If the answers to these are: not long and no health issues. Then I move on to other questions, such as: What are you doing to gain his interest? Are you just hoping that the timing is right at the end of the day? or are you actively engaging him? When you return from work, do you greet him with a kiss? or just begin bitching about the horrors of your day?
(If the answer to these initial questions are: months/years, and yes, there are health issues, then the thoughts below will only take you so far, and there are larger issues that will not be addressed in this post.)
These may appear to be small things, but if you think back to when you were dating, it was probably these small things that tipped the scales to make the two of you an item.
So, what where the things you did? Are they something you're still willing to do?
If they are, then start from there. If you're able to gain his interest back with these little things, then the romance wasn't really lost, it was just diluted by the mundane tasks of the day to day.
If children are a part of your relationship, then obviously this becomes more complicated, and something that should be a topic alone, but the quickest solution is: find adult time! carve it out of your weekly schedule if you have to, but make it happen! even 30 minutes a month can make a difference when there was nothing!
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