costume party

Another topic that appears to be common in relationships is clothing choice. Whether it is the every day attire, or just what is worn in the bedroom, conflicts can happen. How is the issue resolved without causing a fight? Is it possible to make two people happy at the same time if they have opposing views?

Let me set the scene: One person is wanting to find that perfect little dress to match those killer shoes, those little underthings to match that dress to make the whole outfit zing!
Their partner does not see the point of it all. The clothes will just end up in a heap on the floor within minutes. Why bother?

(Before I go any further I'd like to note that these views are not determined by gender! But it would appear that the old adage: 'opposites attract' is correct, otherwise this wouldn't be a topic of discussion!)

For some, a perfect outfit is a way to instill confidence. It gives the wearer a greater sense of who they are. It is a way for them to be unique among the crowd. Or, in some cases, a way to fit into the masses. Whatever the psychology behind it, it gives them the strength they need to deal with everything that gets tossed at them - think of it as armor against the atrocities of life in a world gone insane. Yes, I realize that this statement is a bit over the top, but it illustrates the idea I'm trying to convey.

For others, it is a simpler, base response. They find it attractive and arousing.

Since this is a blog about ecstasy, I am going to ignore the first reasoning and offer the answer to a question about the second: What happens when one person is aroused by clothing/costumes/lingerie and the other is not?

Now, you may think that this would be an easily answered question, but if there are other issues happening within the relationship, then things can get a bit sticky (and not in the fun way). This issue can snowball, turn into an avalanche sooner than expected and suddenly you've found yourself beneath the weight of sixty feet of snow. If you want to survive, the only answer is: pull yourself out!

And how do you do that?

Costume change! Stage left!